Your Loved Ones
It can be tormenting to live with or watch someone you care about suffer with addiction/alcoholism. Anger and sadness may have become a regular part of life. If you have been part of an intervention, or have simply wished or prayed that someone might find help, a residence at Launch Pad may be at least part of the answer. Our trained staff of Placement Professionals will help your loved one find their personalized path to recovery and our in-house Recovery Coaches will make sure your loved one stays on course and discovers their new, more rewarding way of life.
Letting Your Loved One Go
Letting them go may be the most loving and helpful thing you can do, even if the troubled person is your child, parent or spouse. This does not mean just letting them go into a Launch Pad Recovery Residence. It also means letting go of the helpful control you may have tried to exercise. You have probably supplied both rewards and punishments to get your loved one back on track, and it has been heartbreakingly ineffective.
Even if love and yearning are the main feelings, the sad truth is that for the afflicted person such feelings remain unsettled and unsettling. A stepping back, at least somewhat, on the part of loved ones, is very important for the recovering addict/alcoholic. You may not want to do that, and he, or she, may not want you to. Familiar pain sometimes seems better than risking change. But mental and emotional clarity must develop for effective surrender of defenses. They cannot be successfully charmed or forced to change.
The unconscious urge toward another drink or drug is intensified when emotional connections are too strong or too weak, too distracting or too reserved. Though the addict/alcoholic may make perfect sense in verbal discussions, his behavior repeatedly shows something besides perfect sense is at work. It is the language of feelings, not words, which must change from a frozen mass or a raging torrent, to a negotiable stream.
Being Released from a Treatment Program
When a loved one is released from a treatment program or other institution, (or experiences a few days or weeks of abstinence) it is tempting for everyone to fall back into the same patterns as before. Welcomed home they shakily try to pick up where they left off, only to discover the fears and anxieties are still present. Old angers or disappointments have not been resolved by sobriety; and now there is no medication to ease the pain.
Left unchecked, unresolved, such mental and emotional problems come to be a kind of madness. It is a madness that inexorably progresses toward institutions and death. Religions help some, and psychoanalysis helps some. But for addicts/alcoholics who cannot recover through religious or psychological help, the Twelve Step programs have offered the only hope.
AA and NA
Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous have provided a way by which millions upon millions of sorely afflicted people found hope, and recovery. These programs are free, and continue to exist through the tireless efforts of men and women who give back to others what was so freely given to them. It is that very act of giving back which keeps them sufficiently dedicated to their own abstinence.
As recovering people, with reverence beyond description for the Twelve Steps, we noticed, however, an ongoing tragedy. Many people spent long years, or died, without the solution of the Twelve Steps. They had not hit a bottom hard enough to have no further choices; or their usual daily interactions seemed to have more influence upon them than the brief times they spent with recovering peers.